Re: Advice from NG Families...
Welcome to the board. This is actually a tough set of questions to answer, as everyone is different. I haven't deployed yet, but my wife and kids have still spent months with me not there. Basic, OCS and soon BOLC (officer version of AIT). Some of how it will be for you is based on your family. Are you a close family that does everything together, or a little more loose that has no problem spending time apart.
While I'm gone my wife will develop routines and run the household as she sees fit. When I get back there is some tension because it isn't how I would necessarily do things. But we talk and communicate and work through them till we are back into a family routine again.
When I am gone she works under the mentality each day that if she hears from me, great, if not then maybe the next day. During Basic I would write every day and send the letters 2 or 3 times a week. Kept her informed and less like I had this whole other life she knew nothing about. By the end she knew (by name) people as I introduced them during family day. I had been talking about them for 11 wks so she had a good idea about everyone and it wasn't such a mystery. Then as I went through traditional OCS I would come home and talk about the weekend, what we did, about the people, once again so that she wasn't in the dark about my drill weekends.
There are tons of pros and cons. If you have specific questions then lot of people on the board can help answer them, but it is tough to talk about the good and bad of guard life since it can be different for everyone.
25A AZ ARNG
All comments are either my experience or my opinion.