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    I am 23 years old and married for two years. I am almost there with my decision to join the guard and go infantry. I am prosing a situation I need some others who have been there to enlighten me on how they went about it. I love my wife dearly and she loves me, however, when I talk to her about joining she knows the "right" thing to do is to tell me to go ahead and join and do what I have a strong desire to do. The trouble, of course, is that she is afraid of losing me and spending large amounts of time with me gone training, deployed, etc. I have been asked by many of my family members why I would even consider joining because I am on my way to becoming a physical therapist (no worries about me dropping out to join, I am going to be a PT) and my answer always lies with the fact that I believe it is about something bigger than me (cliche I know, but very true) and about serving and protecting what I love and what is right. The only thing hindering me from going through with it at the moment is I want my wife to be right there with me. Any men been here before?

    Thanks,
    DH

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    Re: Just seeing if someone else has been here before.

    Look at it from this perspective this article provides.

    http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/us-ve...ry?id=14928136

    http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/us-ve...?id=14928136#1

    http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/us-ve...?id=14928136#2

    http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/us-ve...?id=14928136#3

    http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/us-ve...?id=14928136#4



    I been married for almost 20 years. I met my spouse after I got out of the Marines back in the 90s. I have already served my country 7 years and just been on deployment exercises. I joined the NG after I left the border patrol in 97 and been serving since 98. Since I been on active duty; I have been away from my family on month's exercises to JRTC/JMCT; constant FTXs at back 40s and been combat deployed with my tours in Iraq and Afghanistan for over 28 months. I missed my daughter's birthday last year due to a JRTC rotation and now will miss it again due to my current deployment.

    I think I been where you asked about and many have experienced much more deployments and longer separations. I do this for them and it is not going to last forever. The other cliche, but very true, is that we do this for the man/woman to the left and right of us.
    Last edited by Chief Kemosabe; June 26th, 2012, 03:11 AM.

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    • #3
      Re: Just seeing if someone else has been here before.

      Honestly I've found that enlisting tends to drop an accelerant into a relationship, for better or worse. There were quite a few weddings/new babies on the way within weeks or months after OSUT, but also quite a few divorces and breakups. My wife and I had been through some pretty rough times before, partly because of my initial failure in the military (I was an Entry Level Separation from the USCG). She was VERY concerned about me re-enlisting, particularly into a more combat-focussed branch and a combat MOS (11B). I completely understood that, but I had to do it or spend the rest of my life wondering "what if".

      There were definitely tough times throughout training, but the "Turning Blue" Ceremony was one of the best days of both of our lives. Like yourself I too have a good civilian job (Oil & Gas Engineer), and many have asked me why I enlisted when I make so much more $'s in the civilian world. Life is about so much more than that, and I'm far more proud of completing 11B OSUT and Airborne School than anything else in my life to date!

      Best of luck and feel free to PM if you need to discuss more.

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        So, just a quick update. My wife is awesome! She is becoming more and more on board every day. I am going to take the ASVAB next week I believe. Looking for that 110 at least. My recruiter told me I made a projected 112 on the practice online. Hopefully I can own it and get it out of the way and look to start RSP this winter or early next year.

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        • #5
          Re: Just seeing if someone else has been here before.

          Thanks for the replies by the way y'all!

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          • #6
            Re: Just seeing if someone else has been here before.

            27 years old with a 2 month old child here. I'm an 11B in the Tennessee National Guard. My wife was very supportive from the beginning... Joining seemed to calm things down a bit.

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