I want to join but my family is worried

[slick]

I want to join but my family is worried that if I do, I will end up just going to war right away. Also, can I join for 2yrs?
peace
slick

[doubtfuldarhma]

You go when and where the army needs you. If you join any branch of the military you have to accept that you may go to war. Also, The enlistment is for 8yrs or 6/2 years. If you want a 2 yr enlistment go active.

[mrduz]

[QUOTE]I want to join but my family is worried that if I do, I will end up just going to war right away. Also, can I join for 2yrs?
peace
slick[QUOTE]
I have the same problem. My wife think's that i'm gonna go to war. And diee when I get there. I can understand her concerns. But it's something that I want to do. She is just worried that my child. Will grow up without a father.

[charleygoguard]

well lets see i kinda have that problem but then again i dont my parents dont want me to go but they dont understand i have wanted this since i was 13 and i wish i could make them change their minds but i dont see that in my future

[nvp8ntball]

i want to go, but my mom doesnt want me any where near the army, my girlfriend doesnt want me to go, for the fact that i could be hurt, but i want to go, what do you guys say, i mean i have wanted to go since i was 12-13 i dont remember but coming up to the end of my junior year, i want to go. to serve but friends and family would like disown me kindof in a way? what do you guys say?

[danmclaren]

if you cant convince your family to let you join, you can always bring up the topic once a month or so, it says "See, its not a passing whim," you can start working out so you are ready, and meet with a recuriter, they are willing to help to try to convince family members, if I never had my mom call the recuriter, she would never have agreed to even let me take the ASVAB

[josborn1012]

I have yet to join the guard but I've been considering it for a couple of months. I've been rather busy to getting around to meeting up with my rec. has been difficult but I hope to have things worked out soon. For me it was kind of a spiratic thing. I knew that I always loved the armed forces and what they do but I never really considered me doing it, I always thought I was too weak. However, as I've grown up alot in the past few years I've realized it's soemthing I can do. It will be difficult but I want to prove it to myself, friends, family, and the rest of the world while defending the country I love so much not to mention freedom and everything we stand for. I know it's hard when your friends and family don't seem to back you but trust you me they will once you get in it. I mean, they might not agree with it but they'll back you 100% because they love you. Really, they don't have a say in it at all because it has nothing to do with them since they can't technically stop you. They just don't want you lose you and that's the only thing keeping them from expressing full agreement with your decision. Afterall, it's totally up to you. If it's something you want to do, go for it!;)

[dancersoldier]

i've got about the same story as josborn1012. I'm a junior in college, and i've been working towards my career in dance since I was like in 2nd grade. I could have a wonderful career after college, and I will do my best to do both dance and the National Guard at the same time if i can. But the military is something that I just have to do.

[NightStalker14]

You guys need to understand that serving in any branch of the military involves an inherent amount of risk. I had to come to grips with this when I realized how much my girlfriend cared for me, and that I fear for what happen to her if she lost me to war. She understands that it's my life and my love, and that the love I have for my country is strong.

I take comfort in knowing that God will take care of me, and that my time is set. I know that if it's His will, I will see her again.

Josborn: You are not too weak. If you're physically weak, get with your recruiter to work out a physical fitness program that'll get you in shape. Too easy, 'mano.

And you're right.

Our girlfriends, parents, wives, and even kids all love us and fear for us, because in some way or other, they all need us to be there.

If they can't stand to see you go, consider your other options. You can serve this country in other ways. CIA or NSA would allow you a chance to do work for this country, and FBI as well.

We are in a time of war. As Soldiers, our highest calling is to serve the people of this nation. As National Guard Soldiers, we do that either at home or abroad. Wherever we're needed, whenever we're needed.

It takes a special person to answer this calling.

I'm not spouting rhetoric here. I truly believe this, because all my life, I've known I was going to soldier in the US Army.

For now, college and ROTC. I'm doing that because I want to be able to support my girlfriend (and future wife) more fully.

When you sign that line, you need to understand that you're living a life of sacrifice.

Determine your priorities in life, and make sure you can place the military ahead of them when it needs you to.

You guys will be alright.

Good luck in making your decision, and my prayers go with you.

[Walt8404]

I have been over twice and my family had to deal with me leaving, didn't want me to go, didn't understand why I wanted to etc. Some things in life you just have to do for yourself. If you want to serve your country do so, there is nothing more honorable. I had a great time and I am hopping back on board now for some more great times.

I also understand that fear is a big part of it as well for yourselves not only your family. The fears that you have about going are just as strong or you would already be on board. Who cares if your afraid, meaning everyone is to a certain extent but you will overcome that. Also not everybody is in harms way, there are many different roles to be had while in country and it is not near as bad as the media portrays it to be. I PROMISE YOU THAT!!

There are no gaurantees that you will go or that you will stay. There are none that you will live or die. But one thing to remember is that if it is your time to go then it's your time regardless of where you are at in the world and the quicker that you accept that the sooner you move on with your life and quit worrying. There are risks in all that you do in life.

Good luck to you all, just make the decision that is right for you and tackle that which lies before you.

[Chaim]

I want to join but my family is worried that if I do, I will end up just going to war right away. Also, can I join for 2yrs?
peace
slick

How old are you? If you are over 18 you don't have to have them to agree for you to join.

Otherwise, as others have said, it is a good thing that they are worried. If I was you I'd only be upset if my family didn't care. They don't want to see you hurt.

My parents never agreed with my decision to join and when I was discharged early they were very happy and relieved. However, they supported my decision (even though they strongly disagreed with it), and when I was discharged they were very understanding and never flaunted their happiness at my misfortune.

[kent.kirkwood]

I had similiar reactions from family and my fiancee, we also have a child together. After I signed and got it over with I have had nothing but support and enthusiasm from my family. They are proud to tell thier friends about their son/boyfriend/brother in the service doing somthing 97% of americans can't or won't due.