Significant other & mixed feelings?

[HopefulWisher]

My boyfriend is 19 and we've been together for a while now. Recently he told me that he wants to join the National Guard, but i have mixed feelings about it. He's a foster child and has come from a rough past, he doesn't have his high school diploma but wants to get his GED with the money he's going to recieve when enlisted. That's the main reason (that i know of) why he wants to join--to get his life back on track.

I'm glad at the effort hes making in trying to correct his life and attempt to start new but at the same time i dont want him to be deployed overseas to get killed. Right now, it seems that the negatives outweigh the positive. i want to be supportive, but there's a piece of me that disagrees.

Any advice?:confused:

[dpwilson4311]

The biggest thing is you can't show him that your scared. Tell him you support him. If he is deployed write him everyday. LEt him know that there is something to live for and something to come home to. That will be what motivates him to stay on his feet and not get caught off guard. I know it did for me while I was over.

[Generic_Poster]

What job is he looking at doing in the Guard?Not all jobs are combat related.

Being scared for his safety is natural though.

[PvtHumphrey]

I had this very problem today also. My man of 11yrs. who is prior service kind of gave me a hard time today about me enlisting. I think it was just a "bad day". He must know by now how serious I am. I take the ASVAB next friday. I'm a little scared. I scored MINIMALLY on the practice, so I just hope I don't fail. It's not like i'm enlisting to become a computer expert :o I want to become an 88M. I love to drive! Sick of nursing, it's been too long. So we'll see how I do. Wish me luck please!:p

[TRUEBLUE4LIFE]

Good luck. You'll do fine.

[HopefulWisher]

Well, he hasn't left yet and i still don't know exactly what he's going into or anything like that. We haven't talked for almost 3 weeks and the other day he called and said that he wasn't good with long distance relationships, so we broke up (more like put our lives on hold :( ) with the end in mind...When i'm adjusted to college and he gets back from training, were going to talk and see what happens from there. I still cant get over the fact though, i was hoping that maybe we could write letters or something, but i guess this is better for now. My friend, Kim, and i found these two things the other day, while she was trying to cheer me up. Share it with anyone and everyone, they're soo true.

P.S. What's the difference (if any) between the Army National Guard and just plain National Guard? :confused:


The Girlfriend's (or wife's) Prayer

give me the greatness of heart to see,
the difference between duty and his love for me.
give me understanding so that i may know,
when duty calls him, he must go.
give me a task to do each day,
to fill the time when he's away.
when he's in a foreign land,
keep him safe in your loving hand.
& Lord, when duty is in the field,
please protect him and be his shield.
& Lord, when deployment is so long,
please stay with me and keep me strong.

"Distance isn't for the fearful; it's for the bold.
It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone
in exchange for a little time with the one they love.
It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it,
even if they don't see it nearly enough"

[gsrtonv]

National Guard and Army National Guard are the same thing. Alot of people leave off the Army part because its shorter to type and say.

There are two National Guards: Army National Guard and Air National Guard. The Air National Guard is Air Force and is completely different from us.